Let’s be real; relationships are something that everyone desires. Whether you’re young, old, or somewhere in-between, I’m sure you understand the meaning and the depth of loneliness.
Relationships are taken so advantaged of in our time period. The moment someone of just the slightest interest comes waltzing into our lives, we automatically picture the rest of our lives with them. I constantly read tweets that say “if you can’t picture the rest of your life with them, don’t date them.” Well… That is true, but what they don’t realize is how easy it is to genuinely picture the rest of our lives with someone. Whether we’ve had interest in them for five years or five days, this is such an easy thing to do. So this is only telling people that if they can picture their life with someone, go ahead and date them because if they can picture their lives with them, it must be true. Right? Wrong.
The reason so many relationships are failing is because of how impatient we have become. We don’t allow the process to happen but we immediately rush into what feels right. Well let me tell you something… What feels right isn’t always what is right. What is right is waiting on the perfect timing of God and allowing Him to gradually enter someone into your life that He sees can draw you closer to Him in pure and utter holiness.
“The purpose of a Godly relationship and potential marriage is not about you. It’s about how you and that other person can serve in the Kingdom.” || SG
Love is such an intimate bond that is meant to be shared between two people with Christ always in the center. Not on the side, not on the back-burner. He is always to be placed in the center of your relationship, no matter what because He is the only one that can shape the relationship and mold it together so even when it falls apart, it will always be built again. If they are causing you nothing but distress, worry, and anxiety and failing to draw you so close to the Kingdom of God and to Jesus Himself, it’s time to let them go. Relationships are meant to strive for purity and to reflect the infinite love of God. Let go of the idea of love and grasp onto the author of love Himself. If you’re destroying your relationship with your significant other because it is not a pure relationship, you’re stripping away your relationship with God that He desires more than anything. Your worth was solely and utterly placed on the cross, not in a bedroom.
If God closes a door of a relationship and you try to open it slowly hoping you won’t get caught… it’ll get slammed in your face every single time. So while you are waiting for this perfect person to come into your life, are you preparing yourself to be a Proverbs 31 woman or an Ephesians 5 man? Are you praying how you can be bettering yourself daily for your future spouse rather than begging God to give you one?
If you enter into a relationship out of pure loneliness, I promise it will fail nearly every single time. You cannot give your heart away before you get your heart right with God. The moment God sees you cannot reach Him any farther on your own is the moment He will provide someone to continue to push you closer to Him. You are worth the wait and so is your future spouse. Not only that, but God is worth the wait. Trying to rush God will only backfire in your face. It’s basically the same as giving Him the middle finger and saying “my plan is so much better than Yours”. The last thing He wants is to be forced to go to plan B simply because you were too eager and impatient to trust in His perfect timing.
Young people, you are only single for a fraction of your lives. You have your ENTIRE life ahead of you to go on cute coffee dates, come home to your spouse and do life with someone as Christ is in the center. Your ENTIRE life. Embrace the season God has you in! Spend your time in singleness endlessly pursuing and seeking the Lord each and every day. Let Him fill the void of loneliness in your heart rather than desperately seeking for a human to fill it.
And if you are in a relationship and it’s God-given, that’s so great and I’m so happy you have found someone to push you closer to Christ with! Always keep Him and His truth centered in your relationship, praying continuously that this is what He wants, and He will continue to bless your relationship. Being equally yoked and digging deep into His Word daily is essential. But, if you are young and you are in a relationship, be so careful how much time you spend with them, especially doing things alone together constantly that could cause emotional attachment. It’s so much easier to put a significant other higher than Christ than you may ever realize… before it’s too late. Attach your heart to the spirit and truth, not your significant other.
Be patient and continue to trust in the Lord as He molds you to be the spouse He has created you to be. You see the step in front of you, He sees the entire staircase. So as you’re climbing up, make sure the staircase leads only to heaven and not to your own desires. As you fall, allow Him to lift you back up from your staircase and place you back up on His staircase.
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” || Ephesians 2:22-28